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How to Care For Introverts & Extroverts: Suggestions

“Given the amazing spread of that “Care for Introverts” image I posted across Tumblr, I had to think about the fact that so many folks seemed to identify with what was said there. As someone who is basically extroverted (with some decidedly introvert quirks) it occurred to me that the flipside of introversion seems self-evident because outgoing, extroverted people kind of demand you figure out how to deal with them as you go along. Still, I figured it couldn’t hurt to make a few notes in the style of “How To Care For Introverts” for the other half of this particular human interaction equation…

  • Respect their need to share, to ‘talk it out.’ They get their energy from other people.
  • Just as with introverts, never embarrass them in public. If you do embarrass them in public, go along as much as is reasonable if they play it off like a joke.
  • Don’t be surprised if they dive into a new situation headfirst. Don’t freak out either if they flounder a little. They’ll find their way.
  • Extroverts blurt. It’s the nature of the beast. Most try to leaven it with charm, but try to be patient when they don’t.
  • Expect interruptions that may seem rude, to some. Most of the time, they mean well.
  • Build surprise into your lives together. Most extroverts love the thrill of not knowing what’s up – as long as it’s positive.
  • Be prepared for what looks like ADD. The organically outgoing among us feed off the environment around them. They are often the best multi-taskers around, so understand that they are often paying much more attention to you than you think they are.
  • A flashover temper goes with the extroverted personality. The bad thing is it can look like a much more severe storm than it is. The good thing is it’s over quickly.
  • Many extroverts live for the intuitive leap. They reach for it. If teaching an extrovert something new, have patience with them jumping ahead of you.
  • They will always have lots of friends. But most extroverts have a core of best friends, and their loyalty can be fierce and aggressive if they feel the need to defend those friends. As with so many aspects of the extroverted personality, you may have to be patient with this.
  • They love compliments, but can usually see right through insincere flattery. Well-timed encouragement, though, can help an extrovert soar.
  • Sometimes, it’s okay to just go along with the “show.” Consider it free entertainment.
  • Respect their extroversion. Don’t try to pin them to your board or cage them. And do them a favor, if you are not yourself outgoing, extroverted – gently but persistently remind them to read something like this as often as possible. They probably will need the reminders.”
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As a self-identified INTROVERT, I feel it is quite important to raise awareness of what this orientation towards life means. There are literally physiological and chemical differences in the ways that introverts and extroverts process information. We may be the minority, but there is nothing wrong with introverts! We are just different. So be informed. It might really help you communicate with and understand others  and/or yourself better.

More articles on introverts:


http://briankim.net/blog/2007/10/top-5-things-every-extrovert-should-know-about-introverts/

“Introverts tend to be those who are more energized when alone with themselves. They are the ones who have to be dragged to parties, who are the first ones ready to leave after a short period of time, and who generally enjoy solitary activities such as reading, writing, and daydreaming.”

 

http://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2003/03/caring-for-your-introvert/2696/

“I’m okay, you’re okay—in small doses.”
“Don’t you know that four fifths of all our troubles in this life would disappear if we would just sit down and keep still?”
“If you don’t say anything, you won’t be called on to repeat it.”
“I’m an introvert. You are a wonderful person and I like you. But now please shush.”

 

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